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Sunday, June 17, 2012

Making Peace With the Past and Dad

After a lot of thought I have decided to move some of best of my old posts from Aging Runnah and A Runnah’s Story blogs, primarily the old reviews, maybe a few of the better posts and race reports that I have written over the years. I have a feeling that at some point, my WordPress.com blogs are simply going to go away and I want to still be able to go back and read some of the stuff I wrote.

If you are reading this blog post, that is why it is has been re-posted here.

Originally posted on: June 17, 2012

The other day I took my dad out to lunch to celebrate Father’s Day a few days early. We went to Angler’s Restaurant in Newport (which was formerly the Log Cabin) and had a nice lunch.

It is a place that holds many memories for us both, since my mother worked at the Log Cabin for over 30 years.

This to me was a special Father’s Day – over the past year my Dad has died twice and I do not mean literally either. He had to be resuscitated and brought back to life back in September and again in January by EMS personal.

So his being here this Father’s Day was not something that I thought was going to happen, but am thankful that it did.

During our lunch and time together, we enjoyed each other’s company, talked, laughed, remembered and just were comfortable being who we have become with one another.

The biggest thing about my Dad is his vitality, he is damn-well going to live life his and f-bomb what people want him to do. As he so colorfully states he has died twice and the bastards brought him back, so he isn’t afraid of dying. Yep that is his attitude and I tend to believe him – he is going live and enjoy whatever time he has left. He is not going to sit in an old easy chair, waiting for death to claim its due.

Death will have to hunt for him and then catch up to dad and even then I have a feeling he won’t go “quietly into the night”.

Over the course of the years I will be honest, our relationship was not what you could call perfect or without its ups and downs. No my father didn’t win any father of the year awards and I wouldn’t have won many “child of mine” awards when I was younger.

I have gone through many stages in my relationship with my father:
  • my father didn’t know anything,
  • to him being a pain in my ass,
  • he was the cause of all my problems,
  • gee he knows more than I thought he did,
  • Dad is a pretty smart,
  • hey Dad can you help me with…
  • to him being my friend.

I think that many of us go through these stages (even though too many get stuck at one or another of them). I for one am glad that I made it through to my Dad becoming my friend, it just took time and both of us maturing a lot.

He may not have always agreed with my choices, but after telling me his views (usually pretty damn bluntly and in only a way that my father can), he attempted to help and support me in the best way that he could at the time.

Over the years I have learned a lot from him – my work ethic (we were expected to work and work hard – then play hard), hunting skills, love of the outdoors, archery, but the one thing that he taught me is summarized very well in the below image:

My father would say it differently with a few f-bombs and be a little more blunt about it, but this is a PG blog .

Of all the things he has taught me, this is the one that is the most important and took the longest for me to learn. In the past I wanted to be all things to everyone and that just doesn’t work and you never are happy with who you are trying to be.

Dad thank you for being you and I am glad that were able to celebrate another Father’s Day together and are so comfortable being around one another now. I hope that we have the opportunities for many more, but I do want you to know that I have come to respect who you are and will always love you.

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